Interest or not

Tag: personal-growth

  • I’m scared to talk to people. It’s a fear. I don’t often make small talk. I don’t chat with people I meet usually. I’m polite and appropriate when speaking with people I meet. At work I usually have little to share in a conversation and few words to add to topics of discussion. My work is manual labor and while communicating clearly is very important, verbal communication is limited in nature where I work. I’m not a boss, a supervisor and I don’t lead a team of workers. Other workers don’t usually look to me with most work related questions.

    I would like to be more talkative when I meet people. Almost every day I come in contact with people whether it is at work or shopping paying for products. Communication comes natural to me with people I know. People I know and care about are the individuals I speak to most. My family live very far away and when we speak it is usually over a phone call. I meet with a therapist regularly and speak to her in volumes and in depth conversations. The community I live in is new to me. I’m not from here. I live here for nearly nine years. I’ve met many people at work, though my temp to hire work makes opportunities to build relations with the same co-workers limited.

    I consider myself to be serious in most situations. I am a realist. I do offer light hearted comments to people that are more about sharing the moment than conveying a serious attitude. When I say something funny I make a point to convey that it is a joke and not to be considered too seriously. I’ve met many people while volunteering in the community. I’ve been active in many conversations with other volunteers and people in the community I’ve met while volunteering.

    I speak to my neighbors often. Speaking to neighbors is a good way to pass the time with people who have similar interests.

    speaking to a stranger is a challenge. Sometimes I’ll say hello to a stranger on the same path as me when I’m walking in public. There are challenges in life and life is worth living. Many challenges involve limited physical requirements. Speaking challenges require my voice and breath and lungs and mouth and jaw and lips and tongue. My body is strong and in good health. I have strong lungs. I move my mouth and lips and tongue and jaw with ease from moment to moment. Challenges meeting individuals who are new to me I’ve never met, and come in contact with for the first time are worth having.

    There is no reason to speak to most people I come in contact with in public. People I come in direct contact with happen most of the time when I’m walking in public, most often in a store or at a cafe.

    Meeting a person who is new to me for the first time I experience almost every day. This is often when I’m buying a product in a store from a person at work at a cash register. I enjoy the exchange of purchasing products and services on sale face to face in person with my money handing over to individuals at work.

    When I have the choice to pay for products at self checkout or with an individual working with a cash register nine out of ten times I make my purchase with the person. I enjoy the opportunity to look into someone’s eyes and watch their facial expression and listen to their voice while I speak to the person, in person.

    I like living in society apposed to living in solitude. I like living around people. I like seeing people every day in public. I want to instigate more conversations more often with strangers when I shop. Not just to the person at work with a cash register, also to persons shopping at the same time as me.

  • Leaders need followers and followers need leaders. One is not better than the other.

    Sometimes it’s difficult to be alone. Then in one moment the difficulty is gone and being alone is easier than having company. Being independent is learned out of necessity. When the environment an individual grows up in is not safe and the people in it are not safe to be around, the individual often learns how to live independently without relying on one other specific person. The individual learns to rely on themselves more than any other person.

    It’s good to have friends and it’s good to have a social life and it’s good to have people around and not be by yourself the whole time.

    Still for an independent person it is not simple to be social all of a sudden. Social skills are like a muscle. Flexing your social skills takes time and repetition to get good at. A person who has many independent characteristics needs time being around a few people and talking to them to be comfortable in larger social settings around more people. This is how a person with limited social skills strengthens their people skills. Taking small bites.

    I could only imagine that an individual who is skilled in social situations might have a difficult time functioning independently all on their own with out the help of a specific person. People are that way. If you are used to being around people all the time you would probably have a more difficult time going independent and making all of your decisions on your own without input from specific people you’re used to socializing with.

    Leaders need followers and followers need leaders. One is not better than the other. They are both vital  and valued in humanity and in society and in success and in failure.

    Learning from many failures can lead to success. One success may be all that’s needed.