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Category: A story to tell

  • Conflict resolution might be easy to speak about

    the boy and girl are not speaking

    I read a message on a news report today that said “who are you fighting for? It made me think of many years ago when I was a young boy. When I was a young child my parents separated, divorced and moved far away from each other. Me and my sisters were split between two homes. Our parents held a lot of anger and resentment toward each other. Their negativity toward each other was clear to us kids. Although we were not encouraged to fight with our fists. The statement “who are you fighting for” brought back a memory of those tough times when us kids were being told two very different stories from our parents.

     At a young age we relied on our parents for everything. It wasn’t until we moved away from our parents homes into the world and on our own when, speaking for myself I had a sense of relief. When parents quarrel, their kids might be brought into the argument and sending mixed messages are a result.

     One parent says one thing, the other parent says a different thing. That’s a mixed message. When kids are young and rely on their parents for everything and get mixed messages from their parents those messages have a large effect and cause problems in a family.

    Some parents argue then work it out and are stronger because they communicated through their problem to a solution. That’s better for the whole family.

    When parents argue sometimes the only thing that gets them to stop arguing is time and space and distance. They have to separate for their own health and for their children’s health. An argument can get so divisive that the solution is to move away from each other into different homes.

    Unfortunately this happens more these days for the reasons a couple have to call it quits. A couple of adults can get pregnant quick and if the couple are not meant to be together lives are changed. Sometimes it makes sense for a couple who are pregnant to separate. Better to call it quits than to be in a violent relationship.

    That brings me back to the news report about “who are you fighting for”. Us kids were not encouraged to fight with our fists. Boxing is a solution for many families. If you are a Boxer you know that challenging an opponent in a ring is much better than fighting without gloves. A Referee can help keep both Boxers from throwing punches below the belt and call off a Boxer who has clearly wounded their opponent before lasting harm is caused. Boxing is a dangerous sport and better than fighting without gloves.

    Communicating through a problem to a solution is better for everyone. No injuries, no injury. Agreeing to disagree is one way to cool off. Revisit a topic with a cool head. Take time with words from the disagreement instead of counteracting immediately.

    People in a party don’t see eye to eye on everything. There might be a leader of the party most people in the party agree with and if you consider everyone in the party, it doesn’t mean each person sees eye to eye on every matter. There might be a clear leader and is doesn’t mean that everyone in a party agrees 100% every time.

    There are challenges in life. It’s good to have challenges. A challenge can teach a person things they never thought were possible. Managing one challenge at a time is a good plan. Sometimes there are multiple challenges, and a good practice might be to give each challenge a different timeline. There is one you. If you have multiple challenges, it’s not simple to schedule them apart. You might not be able to afford to hire an assistant to help manage your responsibilities at home and at work.

    People are faced with challenges every day. A challenge doesn’t need to become violent. There might not be a reason to box it out. Talking through to a solution is better.

    “fight the good fight” is confusing. It’s a blanket statement without more words attached to it. There’s only enough room for one winner of the blanket. Fight the good fight a referee could say and make more sense to start a boxing match where opponents wear gloves, and stand inside a ring. More sense than taking it to a street with no rules.

    It’s important to get enough exercise. Some people get their aggression out safely in a wreck room.

    Learn to control your aggression and maybe you’ll never need to be violent to defend yourself or someone else.

    Think then act

  • At a bar in town it’s almost last call

    It’s almost 2am. I’m in my home office at my desk. There are things to do. Often over the years I wake up early in the morning around 2am. I’m awake for a while then go back to sleep. It’s a cool spring night. There’s not much going on here. My neighborhood sounds quiet from here inside. In town it’s close to last call at a bar.

    Asleep in bed in my dream I was at an airport. Present day. A woman was having sex on a table in front of a group of people. Another woman was sitting on the smooth solid floor with her back against the wall and legs straight out in front of her. I walked to her and offered my hand to her. We walked away and left the airport together. I don’t know the name of the city where we were in the airport. We left on foot. She didn’t need to fly on an airplane. We left together.

    My grandparents had a membership to the Ogden Golf Club. When we were young children my sisters and I would visit our grandparents in summer. They brought us golfing at the club. I remember mostly practicing with a putter. The club had a pool were we went swimming and ate lunch at a restaurant. Back at our grandparents home my grandpa showed me a coffee cup with a hole in one message imprinted on it he won at the golf club.

    Earlier in the day I visited a book store. I’m 47. A woman at the book store sold me a Magazine about Oregon and told me of a good restaurant near the coast. The woman is beautiful. Her smile is pretty. The shirt she wore at work covered her tits. I thanked her for selling me the Magazine.

    Life is good

  • For those trying to quit watching porn

    Porn addiction causes many problems. I watched porn on the internet not long ago. I can remember the scene if I focus on the memory in my mind. Images and photos and videos and graphics are like that. Some stay in a persons mind longer. Other visuals seem to be forgotten soon after a person looks away. Porn addiction can be that way. If you’re not looking to the porn on the screen, you’re looking somewhere else. Or maybe you’re doing something completely different. I hope you’re safe and not a safety risk to anyone else.

     To overcome pornography, (I’m much better than I was) I stop looking, watching and listening to erotica. The specific porn content a person is addicted to matters. “Soft porn” is more extreme than looking at a photo of a person who looks beautiful to you. Know your limits. If you can get comfortable looking at photos of beautiful people wearing clothes you might be able to get a dopamine rush without looking at porn.

     Porn creeps up and down, to and fro. If you’re looking at soft porn, temptation builds as more and more skin is revealed and less and less clothes are worn. Porn addiction is either getting closer to “climax” or going from it. The visual stimulation increases and decreases like a wave on the shore of a beach in the form of people in various stages of nudity and sex.

    There are many theories about porn. One theory is it is healthy, and safe. Watching too much porn is not healthy. Try bringing yourself to climax somewhere private where you are safe without watching porn. Religious leaders might look down on others for masturbating, an addiction to porn might have nothing to do with pleasing a religious leader.

    Watching porn might be safe in private and it’s not a secret the source of the porn is making profit. If you’re addicted to porn or are worried that you’re watching too much porn for your own good, odds are the content you’ve watched is becoming more extreme. Everyone is unique and knows what turns them on. It’s up to you to turn off the porn show, website, channel, etc… It might not be that easy.

    The more amount of time you watch porn the more invested the creator of the content is in getting their product consumed.

    If you watch a lot of porn some of the photos on the home page of a news website might display a photo of a sexy model. THE PHOTO IS LINKED to more sexy photos.

    Remember you are in control. It’s your use of internet and Wi-Fi and mobile data and you have the power to do with your technology and magazine as you will.

  • Be aware of your environment

    Landscape with huge blue mountains with reflection in lake.

    An unsecured internet line is a risk. It’s not funny. It’s not fun for you unless you have fun scaring people, and it’s not fun for your neighbor. From an American perspective Houthi’s are bad news. Are they halfway around the world and in United States? Houthi’s terrorized Cargo Ships carrying products you might have on order, traveling to and from the Arabian Sea to Gulf Oman in and out of the Persian Gulf.

    Secure communications are paramount to travel these days. GPS Maps help people around the world get to where their going safe and on schedule. GPS is a big deal. Whether you’re walking or driving, a GPS Map is designed to help get you there. The same goes for traveling on water.

    I’m surprised satellite’s offer their global positioning technology to the public for free due to sabotage by some users of the internet and of Wi-Fi. To use a GPS Map requires a connection to the internet or to Wi-Fi or mobile data while you’re in route. If you’re connection to the internet or Wi-Fi or mobile data is compromised at any time, a threat actor might try to redirect a GPS map signal sending a victim to the wrong place at the wrong time. Are you interested in learning how to beef up the security of your internet and Wi-fi? Cnet.com shared a lot of practical ways to do just that at their article written straight forward in clear English.

    You don’t want to be in the wrong place anytime. The wrong place means it’s dangerous. The wrong place might be infected with a virus.

    Be careful where you get your news. Viral news has become popular and might not be credible. It’s very important to be aware of your environment, specifically when traveling internationally. Before you plan to travel to a foreign country check US Embassy news about the safety of where you’re considering traveling to.

    There are many safe destinations to travel to around the world. If you don’t have experience traveling to a foreign country there are many good destinations to visit in United States.

    Travel with someone you know and trust. Visit a book store and pick up a current book with travel reviews. Read about people and places at a popular destination. A Geography Teacher at School and a Cultural Studies Teacher at School are good sources of information about worthy destinations to visit around the world.

    Tell people you know and trust when you’re planning to travel to a foreign country. Before you leave tell people you know and trust when you’re planning to be back.

    On a Vessel on the Persian Gulf to a destination, voyagers float through Gulf Oman on to the Arabian Sea. From the Arabian Sea, Vessels travel in many directions and to many Ports including United States coastal waters and Harbors where the people on board and products reach land.

    The movie is based on a true story

    Hearing a foreign accent in United States might be good and depending where you are in US might be a daily occurrence. The same goes with seeing a person’s skin color who is much darker or lighter than yours. Everyone’s skin color is not the same. People with the lightest skin color and the darkest skin color work very hard to live in peace. People with very different accents speaking different languages work very hard to live in peace.

     When someone has a different skin color than yours and speaks a different language than you it might be a welcome surprise and if you’re not used to seeing and hearing people from a different culture you might feel anxious. Anxious because they look and sound different than the people you are used to being around.

    Culture is a tricky word. The word culture has many uses. A conversation about people might include the statement “they’re from a different culture”, referring to persons who have a darker or lighter skin color and speak a foreign language. A conversation a farmer has at work might have to do with producing agriculture. Agriculture is food.

    English can be a difficult language to learn if it’s not your first language. Just remember, If you’re reading the ingredients label on a container of yogurt and it reads “live bifidus cultures”, it’s referring to the fermented dairy in the container and is not human. Agriculture, and “work culture” are are not the same. A strong work culture is a way to describe people who work for a company. The word culture has many uses and often easier to understand if English is your first language.

     Don’t get stuck in the yogurt

     As hard as people try to live a healthy life in peace, problems happen.

    There are slaves controlled by terrorists. Terrorists cause problems for people. In recent news a man escaped captivity from a house where his mom kept him captive for many years. She terrorized him. Many years past before he escaped. She was exposed for keeping him captive in secret locked in a house away from other people while she was living in a community unaware of her terrorist behavior in United States.

     Houthi’s are terrorists in the Middle East we don’t want in United States. People from the Middle East live around the world including United States and are generally peaceful. Unfortunately conflicts in the Middle East have been ongoing for many years and continually drawn US Military to, to deescalate.

    Americans live around the world and are generally peaceful. Americans are also known for having the largest and most formidable Military on Earth. Countries around the world rely on US Military for protection. Keeping the peace is not a simple task.

    Dove holding a branch is a sign of peace

  • Both sides now

    In news recently are reports of people saying having a relationship with God will relieve them of depression. I disagree and I love God. While some people’s depression might be relieved by having a relationship with God other people’s depression is more severe. A person experiencing severe depression might have been caused by a traumatic experience and requires taking medicine usually in the form of prescribed medication. Having good relationships with others can relieve depression. Good relationships with people are important. When you get along with the people in your life, social interactions become easier.

     It’s easier to meet new people and make more friends when you get along well with the people you know. Humans have evolved to live together. This is how life is created. A man and a woman living together are often mates and bring new life into the world. Life is a celebration of moments. Every moment is not extraordinary. One moment to the next are usually ordinary.

    A moment might be remembered as an incident and might pass by in the blink of an eye. Adults in business often talk about an incident in a negative tone of voice. For example, “there was an incident at work today” is an opening statement about something that happened at work that was not wanted.

     For example, if there are people involved in a car accident it is usually described as an incident. The details of the incident include everyone that was involved. Some drivers might stop at the scene of a car accident to help. Depending on the size of the accident, all the drivers on the road might need to stop. If a car accident appears to be small less drivers stop to help, passing by in the blink of an eye.

    When something good happens at work it’s usually talked about with a description explaining what was extraordinary, out of the ordinary. It was so and so’s birthday today. We brought cupcakes for everyone at the office to celebrate the person’s birthday. A birthday celebrated is an extraordinary moment in a long series of ordinary moments.