I can’t and I can

I can’t change the past. I can’t take back the troubles and emotional pain I caused others. I can’t go back in time and make it better.

I’ve moved far and away from the negative influences that had a grip on me.

I’ve started over in a new to me community with new to me people and experiences and places to go. The move here is probably the best decision I’ve made in a long time.

I’m getting older and making new friends is not as basic as it was when I was a young boy and as a young adult. I’m no longer a young adult.

At 48 most people I meet want many of the same things. Peace stability and comfort. People want these things at all ages and often younger people rely on their elders to make it happen.

As a middle age man I have the opportunity to meet people as they are. Call a spade a spade. Seek out the people and places that make me feel at peace, safe, secure and confident. People who look out for my best interest are the individuals I strive to meet and know and look out for.

Starting over in a community that is new to me includes hesitance from locals naturally. I don’t hide that I’m not from around here. And I tell people where I’m from.

The lesson is to never forget where you’re from. Where you are from may not represent who you are, but it did. Learn from the past and don’t dwell in those thoughts. Call on your memories from the past as they are, of the past and not as they could have been. Both the good and the bad. That is how to meet people in the present as they are without a filter, without a bias, without a motive.

Good luck to you